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Have We All Fully Committed to this Narrative of Dissatisfaction?

Illustration of the Dissatisfaction Narrative
The Mirror is Just as Confused as the Man

by Winston Hamilton

Combatting the Narrative

One of the biggest threats today to the continued advancement of our society is the Narrative of Dissatisfaction that has become pervasive in most, if not all, forms of media and language. Feelings of dissatisfaction can be very debilitating and can limit a person’s future potential. When we are constantly dissatisfied, we are never able to appreciate our accomplishments or feel good about ourselves. This can lead to a lack of confidence, a lack of decisiveness, and low self-esteem. Feelings of dissatisfaction are a natural human emotion, but overwhelming feelings of dissatisfaction are a result of some variable that has been added to the equation. And we believe that variable is the underlying theme of Dissatisfaction that is in the majority of media consumed by most of us. According to the New York Times, “87% of the Covid coverage in the national US media was negative.”

Essentially, the intention of most media is to make the watcher feel more fearful, as opposed to feeling more confident.

Narrative of Dissatisfaction

We have to keep in mind that the words we listen to, are what molds us into who we become. And I am not the only one who has this knowledge. Watching negative media can affect us and make us more negative towards life. This is because the media we consume can shape our thoughts, feelings, and beliefs. When we are constantly exposed to negative messages, it can start to wear us down and make us feel more pessimistic about the world.

So, from a seller’s standpoint if I knew that a person who is dissatisfied is more likely to buy a product or service that represents a step toward satisfaction, then it makes sense for me to focus on creating more and more ways to compel my audience to feel dissatisfied. Now, we must be honest, all they can do is “compel” us. They can not “force” Us to do anything. However, the seller has gotten so good with their tactics that you would be hard pressed to find a person who will openly admit that they are indeed “choosing” to feel dissatisfied.

So, which one is true?

Are they compelling us to feel dissatisfied?

Or, are we choosing to feel dissatisfied?

Well, both are true. We are being compelled to feel dissatisfied because that is the underlying theme in every story we hear and every message we listen. So, feeling dissatisfied becomes the easier choice. Complaining about your job, or your circumstance, gets a better reception from our fellow humans, than talking about how grateful you are for your job and circumstance. We must begin to fight against this urge to bond ourselves in our misfortune. It is a trap we have all fallen into, and it is a trap that we can all help each other get out of. Let us try to help each other solve our problems. Let us become more vigilant with purposefully seeking our satisfaction.

The Power of Choice

The reason we are adamant about fighting back with gratitude against feelings of dissatisfaction is because feelings of dissatisfaction can rob us of all the products and/or services a person could have created or improved, had they been confident enough to tap into and express their abilities. Feelings of dissatisfaction can also lead us down the road to the other 3 D feelings. The other 3 D feelings are discontentment, doubt, and deceit. Engaging in any of these three feelings for too long can destroy all the good we’ve started. So, let us begin to be aware of, and fight back with logic and gratitude against the 4 D feelings.

How to Fix It

Now, in order to fix anything we must first understand How it Works. So how do our feelings/thoughts work? Where do they come from?

If we take a few minutes to think about this, the answer will come to us. Our thoughts are a result of the messages we have seen and heard, and things we have experienced up until this point.

For example, I have never had a clear thought about what a weekend in Tomsk would look like. Because I have never been to Tomsk, and I have never seen or heard anything pertaining to Tomsk. However, the thoughts flow like a river when I think about weekends in California, Lagos, or South Carolina. Because I have experienced and witnessed those places. Our thoughts come from the messages we have experienced.

Ok, so is there a way to affect my thoughts going forward?

Yes, you can affect your thoughts by altering the messages you listen to everyday. If you incorporate more positive messages and less negative messages into your daily routine, then you will have more positive thoughts toward what you see in life. We have the power to affect this. How we view things greatly affects how we behave. And we must acknowledge that the Way WE view things, is way more important than the way things actually are. So, we must regain control of molding our View of things.

“We can complain because roses have thorns, or rejoice because thorns have roses.” – Alphonse Karr

It is indeed possible for us to craft pit stops that serve as point of Satisfaction for us. One of these methods is goal setting. Setting goals can help us to know when we should be satisfied. When we have goals, we have something to work towards. We have a sense of direction and purpose. And when we achieve our goals, we can feel a sense of accomplishment and satisfaction. This can boost our confidence, help us to make decisions more easily, and improve our self-esteem.

It's important to know when to be satisfied. And setting goals can help us to do that.

Here are some additional tips for acknowledging satisfaction:

  • Celebrate your accomplishments. When you achieve a goal, take some time to celebrate your accomplishment. This will help you to appreciate your hard work and feel a sense of satisfaction.

  • Compare yourself to your past self, not to others. It's easy to get caught up in comparing ourselves to others. But this can be a recipe for dissatisfaction. Instead, focus on comparing yourself to your past self. This will help you to see how far you've come and appreciate your progress.

  • Be grateful for what you have. It's easy to focus on what we don't have. But if we take some time to be grateful for what we do have, we'll be more likely to feel satisfied with our lives.

Remember, satisfaction is a journey, not a destination. It's something that we have to work at every day. The same way the conglomerates work ferociously at compelling us to feel dissatisfied every day, We must begin fighting with that same ferocity for our satisfaction every day. Feelings of confidence and contentment are what allow us to continue to tap into our talents and use them to help more and more people.

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